Dating for hiv people
My colleague didn’t disclose my status because he didn’t know if that would be out of line or not (for the record, I wouldn’t have minded). I later found out that he had seen an article about me in the , and he was cool with it. One of the questions I’m often asked is: For me, personally and according to a recent statement from Dr.During the date, we were talking about how I was going to be travelling for a health conference, and I blurted out my status. Theresa Tam, the Chief Public Health Officer of Canada, the answer is about 0 percent.When we went out for lunch later that week, I shared that I wasn’t just a volunteer but was also HIV-positive. He had never met someone living with HIV (that he knew of), but I ended up playing the role of advocate instead of romantic interest.He started asking questions about how I got it, about my most horrifying disclosure stories and any recent advances in medicine that might help me. I felt like I should give him a pop quiz afterward.When I was 13 years old, I remembering telling myself, “I haven’t even kissed a boy and I have an STI.” That’s how the kids in my class and I were taught about HIV, an infection that I’ve had since birth. A bit about me: I’m 24, living in the Greater Toronto Area and a Gemini who works as a freelance journalist. My mother contracted HIV after my father had several affairs, and she was unaware of her status when she got pregnant, gave birth and breastfed me.We both found out that we were HIV positive when we came to Canada in 1995. Over the years, I have learned to accept my status and love myself—but finding partners who feel the same is not always easy.I was not open with any of my peers, even my high school best friend who caught me crying a few times.When my parents died, I didn’t tell people why either. I’ve also been told that I’m “really mature” and “act older than I am,” which I choose to view as compliments.
Disclosing my status sooner rather than later is something I do—not because I plan on sleeping with them right away (of course, if I did that would be OK too)—but because I don’t want either of us to get too invested unless we both know what we’re getting into.
If I’m being honest, the fact that he didn’t know much about HIV probably turned me off a bit too.
And he wasn’t the only date to turn a romantic meal into a classroom session.
That it really is a conversation better to have in-person. However, sometimes I just hope that they’ve already read about it somehow.
A few months ago, I went on a date with someone I met through a colleague. When we eventually broke up, and it had nothing to do with my HIV, but rather that he was older (duh) and ready to settle down and I wasn’t in the same headspace.